This weekend I returned from a 3-day Release your Inner Warrior Retreat – an incredible, unexpected opportunity gifted to me by my business coach who was unable to attend herself.

Led by the amazing Angela, the Ice Warrior, I joined a small group of 7 other women on a cold, blustery evening mid-November staying in a beautifully converted chapel a stone’s throw from Aberffraw Estuary and the Anglesey Coastal Path. It was a weekend of powerful breathwork, cold exposure, mindset exercises and coaching.

This retreat has been a timely reminder of the benefits and necessity of having unmet needs met. Leaving home for a few days and to return having felt valued, heard and rejuvenated.

Photographs by the talented Ali Ford Photography.

It allowed me to go within, to reflect, revisit parts of myself I had forgotten (or hidden). It gave me the space over a long weekend to embrace something completely different, but more importantly the ability to refresh, refocus and address some of my unmet needs.

My need for challenge was met by…

  • walking bravely into a cold, blustery sea on the beach of Aberffraw in November! Sometimes doing what we don’t want to do (I was in full rebellious child mode!) can be incredibly enlightening.
  • leaning into breath work and meditation which I’d struggled with previously yet found a bit easier to do this time round.
  • facing my fear of having to release some of my grief and stress that I had been holding onto so tightly. 
  • learning to be vulnerable in front of a small community of strangers who quickly became soul sisters and fellow warriors who all want to feel freer, happier and lighter.


My need for exercise and movement was met by…

  • long, leisurely windswept walks along the muddy fields and coastal path of Aberffraw and across the open expanse of its sandy beach. 


My need for being in nature and the outdoors was met by…

  • listening to the soothing sounds of the waves on the beach, feeling the wind on my face, and breathing in the salty sea air was incredibly invigorating, refreshing and calming.


My need for connection was met by…

  • being truly listened to and hugged by amazing women who embraced my vulnerability, honesty and uniqueness. 
  • reconnecting with myself and remembering my value.


My need for comfort was met by…

  • being next to a crackling log burning stove whilst meditating, in my PJs, fluffy socks, and wrapped in a blanket.
  • my body and soul nourished with incredibly tasty, filling plant-based food cooked by an on-site chef who also sat with us at the table and shared her love of what she created. 


My need for relaxation and being comfortable in just being still was met by…

  • powerful guided breath work and meditation.


My need for release was met by…

  • sharing my grief, my tears and overwhelming sadness of losing my Dad and others I’ve lost and miss so deeply.
  • showing vulnerability, emotion, sharing my insights and experiences that benefited me and inspired others. It’s exhausting to keep being strong for everyone all the time.


My need for clarity to shine through the noisy brain chatter of limiting beliefs, fear and control of having it all figured out was met by…

  • removing distraction, writing in my journal about anything that felt meaningful, useful, creative, talking and sharing my stories, reflections and vulnerability with others, listening to others talk and resonating with their shared stories.


My need for space and time on my own without responsibilities, decision making, people pleasing and overwhelm was met by…

  • investing in myself the time to travel 180 miles to Anglesey for 3 nights, placing trust in our retreat leader, to lean into an informal and flexible agenda, do what feels right for me, and the bliss of having my own room for privacy.


My need for a restful night’s sleep was met by…

  • being in my own private room, embraced by peace and quiet, soft pillows and duvet on a comfortable bed.


My need to be away from distraction and temptation was met by…

  • not watching TV, only checking in with family briefly, going to bed before 10pm, and eating what was provided rather than raiding the kitchen for snacks and treats.


My need for creativity was met by…

  • writing. I’ve written so much and it’s reminded me of the benefits of journaling more often, capturing the ebb and flow of my thoughts, feelings, understandings, nuggets of ideas of what I want to do next for me and my business. It’s revealed a love of words and expression that I’d long forgotten and resisted against and have a curiosity to write more.


So what’s next for me? I’m going to commit to breathwork every day, get outside every day, maybe with a walking group, and explore my creativity with writing fiction. Time for me is not a luxury it’s an essential part of what helps me stay sane!

When did you last take time for you? To give yourself time to breathe, think, process? A retreat doesn’t need to be an extended trip or big financial investment. It can be 10 minutes on your own with no phone or distractions, a walk, a catch-up with a friend.

Need time to talk through what you need in your personal and professional life? Schedule a free 20-minute telephone call and we can figure it out together.

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